Neil and God
Regardless of whether I truly believe in the concept of God or a higher power that doesnt translate to religion, my little one does have a relationship with HIM that I dont quite understand! Ah, what a precious little 4 year old! :)
Neil is 22 months old now. He has already taken a big vacation – to
Neil is almost a year and a half old. There are so many heart-warming moments and drive-me-up-the-wall-I-want-to-pull-out-my-hair moments as well! This morning, Neil wanted the Vaseline jar that I told him he cannot have. He started howling and throwing a tantrum. This has become very common these days – if he cannot have something or if we tell him it’s not for him, he starts howling and throwing a fit. I kept repeating that he cannot have it, and he stopped crying, toned down his voice and said “peass” which means “please” (plus he signed the word please in his baby sign language)! It was so very adorable! I had to fight my emotions hard to stay put and continue to say no to him! That’s what parenting is all about, I suppose!
Last week (Jan 21-24), Neil had very high fever. It was the first time, his fever went up to 104.4. Almost scared us into going to the ER but we didn’t. He was doing fine in terms of his day-to-day behavior and activity. He did get lethargic for 2 days and stayed clinging on to me. Poor guy! Just the week before on Jan 11 when he completed 16 months, I stopped giving him the bottle for his night-time milk and middle-of-the-night milk feeding. I switched to offering him the sippy cup. He didn’t protest too much but reduced his intake of milk. I am being very persistent about this although it breaks my heart to see him not have even 16 oz of milk in a day. He did start sleeping much better but the last 2 days he has been waking up a lot at night. I wonder if its because he is hungry! I am contemplating giving his last feed for the day in the bottle and cutting out the middle-of-the-night feeding and then slowly scaling back. No one said parenting was going to be easy! It’s a tough choice!
October 1, 2007: Today Neil moved to the “mobile monkeys” section in day care – kids here are more mobile and Neil gets to do a lot more: walk around, eat more adult like food, do arts & crafts. I think Neil is enjoying it although he is definitely more clingy and cries a lot when I drop him off.
Neil got better at day care when I sent him full time for a week while mom and dad were visiting
I started taking Neil to the potty every morning. He responded to it very well for the first two weeks or so. But then, off late, he refuses to do it in the potty. For that matter his whole cycle of eating-pooping-sleeping has taken a turn for the worse. Every day is a new time-table. Its challenging. But there are cute moments. Like last night (October 30, 2007), after having his dinner, he pooped. And I told him that he needed to use the potty and to let Mamma know that he needed to go. After I said that he headed straight for the restroom where I usually take him! It was cute – I had to tell him that it was too late and we would go upstairs and give him a bath instead. Promptly he started scaling the stairs.
He’s also become a hoodlum at the day care. I saw him physically pummel another kid and snatch a toy from her!
Neil turned 1 on September 11, 2007! A full one year! Its been an amazing journey to see him grow into this amusing little tyke! We celebrated his birthday in the
August 1, 2007: What a nightmare it has been today! I picked Neil up from daycare and he seemed his normal self. They had been reporting loose bowel movements for 2-3 days now but I didn’t take particular notice. Neil didn’t have his night-time meal as he usually does but that didn’t really bother me till I finished bathing him and while dressing him up, he threw up! Once I finished cleaning him, re-dressing him, taking him downstairs, I gave him his bottle – he drank some and threw up again! He did this 2 more times and I nearly lost it! He threw up in the bedroom, on the sheets, in the kitchen, in the bathroom and I was nearly hysterical! I didn’t know what to do. I called the doc’s office and they told me that it could be stomach flu. The virus was making the rounds in the county and that I should let him rest without feeding him anything. I stayed up most of the night watching over him because he continued to gag in his sleep and throw up fluids! It was tough to watch him struggle and suffer.
Neil now recognizes words like “Bye-bye”, “ball”, “clap”, “hi-five” – he responds to these words with actions! He also learnt to climb up the stairs (in the first week of July in PIT) and about 2 weeks later learnt to climb down the stairs. He’s quite a master at it now!
Neil was sick this month – his first ear infection. Neil seemed feverish on June 1st, but we thought it was simply a by-product of his cold. When the fever hovered between 98 and 101 for 4 days, I called the doctor’s office where they told me that if the fever goes up over 100, to bring him in. We took him to the doctor’s office on 7th where he was diagnosed with ear infection. He hadn’t shown any symptoms like tugging his ear or reduced appetite, so the diagnosis was a surprise! I was a little bummed but Neil seemed to be doing just fine. He was prescribed a 10-day dose of Amoxicillin (an antibiotic). Also, I learned that Tylenol should be given only when the fever is above 100 or if the baby is in pain (to reduce the feeling of pain); but for fevers below 100, there is no need to give Tylenol.
Neil started losing his appetite the second day after he started taking the antibiotic. It was sad to see him like that but he recovered pretty fast and by mid-week (around June 14th) he was back to being himself. The first few days back at the day care he was very clingy and fussy. But by the end of the week, his appetite and his good nature was back! I was so relieved – all this night waking up and looking after him caused me to get really sick. I ran a temperature of 102 and was diagnosed with sinus infection! Boy, oh, boy, it was getting to be an interesting month of being a mommy all by myself i.e. no help from anyone else! I recovered after a bout of antibiotic as well. Sri managed to work from home during the week that Neil was sick, so that certainly helped out.
After all this, Neil is still not sleeping very well through the night. I have tried all kinds of variations in his schedule and diet but to no avail. I have moved his dinner time closer to bed time, added formula for his pre-bedtime feeding along with nursing, given him a lovey, a soft blankie – all have been failures so far. He manages to sleep through the night for 2-3 out of the seven days in a week. The rest of the days he has a very erratic schedule. He also does not sleep very well during the day in the day-care.
Apart from that his progress has been fantastic. He is now eating more adult-like food – he loves to eat bread, chapatti, rice – anything he can munch on. He has graduating to eating yogurt and cheese. Its really fun to see him eat all this. He also demands food now – which is quite entertaining. He is beginning to exhibit quite a temper and his personality is starting to show. He moves around a lot and tries to stand up quite a bit. He has also started pulling the cabinet doors and drawers in the kitchen. Time to get those child locks on, I suppose!
Through this week of April 9, 2007, Neil has been struggling through his first cold/cough. He has thrown up a few times and he fusses/cries through his feeding. Its hard to watch him go through this but there is really nothing anyone can do. I have tried applying baby vicks but he doesn’t really like it. He keeps rubbing it off.
He has started having formula in his cereal and a few times in the bottle as well. As far as his solids are concerned, he’s eaten peas, carrots, beans, sweet potatoes, squash and even potato. I started giving him rice and daal this week and he absolutely loves it.
Neil even had his full blown fever on the flight back to US from
As kids most likely do, Neil managed to amaze us during the long flight to
This week is just Neil and me – the first time that mom and son are alone at home. I am working from home this week and its certainly a challenge. Neil is not being himself. He has not been sleeping well in his bassinet. Moving him into my bed got him to sleep for a longer stretch but he does not sleep as well as before. We also undertake our long journey to
After Neil’s shots, he slept well one night but then he has not been sleeping well at all. I have had to miss several days of work due to lack of sleep. L But Neil did something quite remarkable on Tuesday (13th). I was sitting in the study working and he was lying on the floor right there when we started rolling over – fist slowly from back to tummy then tummy to back and then faster and faster! It was great to watch him do that for the first time. He repeated it several times in the day and then the next day too. But then he rolled onto the hardwood floor downstairs and hit his head on the floor! That was sufficient to discourage him from ever doing it again the rest of the week!
Neil is completing 6 months this week and he also gets his 6 month shots. This time Sri went with us to get the shots. Neil did remarkably well – he didn’t cry too much. But his weight gain leaves much to be desired – he is only 14 lbs 12 oz (10th percentile) and his height is 27 inches (75th percentile). So the doc has asked me to ensure he gets more milk.
Neil is on a better night-sleep schedule this week. I believe the “forget-the-monitor” did the trick. I, however, am not sleeping so well. The monitor keeps making these electronic sounds that’s very annoying. I have discovered that keeping it on the floor rather than on my bed-side table works – could this be due to the proximity of the cordless phone? Neil doesn’t sleep well during the day – he does remain very active and playful but no schedule as far as sleep is concerned! He focuses very intently every time he plays with something – any little thing that catches his fancy for that moment is the object of his undivided attention. Its very interesting to watch him focus and try to grasp things or turn them around. He also recognized my voice and even Sri’s voice from anywhere. He turns around so adoringly when we call out to him (yeah, he responds to his name now!) and searches for us!
Due to all the crazy symptoms last week, I ended up taking Neil to the doc, who simply said everything was fine with Neil. He's 14 lbs, 4.5 oz. Just a shade ok... he still doesnt feed a lot but otherwise he is a happy active kid. Nothing to worry about. I need to let him sleep through the night is what the doc said! ;-) "Kiss him goodnight, close the room door and walk back in 10 hours later", is how he said it! Oh, well! I knew I wasnt doing a good thing by waking up at night and catering to his "mum..mum" demands, so I decided to mend my ways. And guess how I did it? I forgot to turn on the baby monitor! I got 8 hours of blissful sleep and woke up pretty amazed that Neil had not cried all night. When I turned around to look at the monitor I realized it was off and ended up feeling sooooo guilty! Anyway, he was fast asleep when I checked up on him. So I was not too worried. He nursed well and continued to be playful through the day.
After returning from the trip, Neil's sleep cycle is all messed up. Its mostly my fault coz I woke up in the middle of the night several times and fed him. So Neil got into this habit of waking up and crying "mum..mum..mum" which during the day means he's hungry. At night, as it turns out, he wasnt really hungry but he probably figured out that doing that got him attention! I have also been noticing Neil sweating a lot during nursing, especially around his head/face. He still has his off and on coughing and several times this week he threw up or spit up his milk/food. It started getting us worried.
This week is going to be a first for Neil - his first time on a flight! I am a little nervous - its a precursor to our long flight to
The flight itself turned out to be so much better than I had hoped. Both ways I got an extra seat to put Neil's car seat in. In retrospect, it wasnt such a great idea because holding him close to me turned out to be better. On the way to